meme; bdsm contract

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the BDSM CONTRACT meme for smut + shipping

Two people sitting a table, a pen in each of their hands, reading over the terms and conditions of their new relationship. We all know the scene. And we can do better than that.  Contracts require understanding, negotiation, and discussion. Don't be afraid to ask for a re-draft if you're not liking what you're seeing. And if you're seeing too many no-gos, maybe this isn't the contract for you, and that's okay. Plenty of people would love to have you! how to play Comment with your character, your preferences, and what a contract with your character might look like [i.e. are they are a Dom or a sub, what are they in search of, what are their hard nos, etc]. This is all IC, so there's a chance your character doesn't even know what they want! Additionally, don't feel as if you [as the player] actually have to write up an entire legalese contract – unless you want to, because more power to you in that case. Just the highlights will do! Reply to others, and see if you can find a contract you can sign comfortably.  Now that you're contractually obligated to one another, the real fun begins.

choose your contract  All of these are just ideas based on common D/s dynamics, they don't all need to be present in your contract — feel free to mix and match or create something new entirely! desired position  - Within this contract, are you taking on the role of the Dom/top/sadist/master/etc, or the sub/bottom/masochist/slave/etc? desired dynamic - Are you looking for a Daddy Dom / little [girl/boy] dynamic? A total power exchange? A sadomasochistic relationship? A caregiver relationship? Pup and owner? Master and slave? sexual frequency - According to your contract, how frequently do you expect sex to occur? areas that are off-limits - For either party, what shouldn't happen under any circumstances? areas to explore - What are some things you do want to see within this relationship? Kinks you'd like to engage in, things you need the other party to be interested in exploring, and vice versa?  authority - How much power does the Dom figure have really? Is it all play between you within a designated play space/time, or is this person allowed to choose their sub's clothing each morning and manage their money? safe words - Gotta have them when things go too far. When in doubt, the stoplight system always works! openness- How exclusive are the two of you? Is the sub allowed to see other Doms, and vice versa? Or is the expectation that you're locked in together. Is this romantic, or purely sexual? writer's choice - Something we left out? Throw it in!